The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Twenty One

It’s day twenty-one of the be kind to yourself challenge and rewarding your hard work and accomplishments, is an integral part of the process. Being kind to yourself requires you to indulge once in a while. Let yourself be you, in all aspects. This part of the process is learning to accept that, and reward it too. As long as it has value to you, then it’s important. Acknowledge your needs and wants, and evaluate what is best for you. Only you know what to do. I love to sit back, eat some snacks and watch some tv or movies. Movies have a profound effect on me and knowing that, allows me to choose which movies to watch when I[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Twenty

It’s day twenty of the be kind to yourself challenge and today’s task is all about music. Music can have an intrinsic value to help aid you during your most stressful moments. Well, at least it does for me. Music has been around and alive for as long as I can remember. Music feels like an alternate mindset, where time doesn’t exist and my feelings aren’t in focus. Music is much more than sounds hitting the eardrums. It’s an escape. A memory within a fleeting moment. Emotions doesn’t exist and neither does the difficulties of life. It’s time frozen but a life lived within that moment. Now, this moment can become a memory useful to recall in times of great[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Nineteen

The be kind to yourself challenge is now on day nineteen, a day to evaluate our surroundings and appreciate what we have. In moments of stress, simply looking around and appreciating what I have can alleviate some of the stress I’m experiencing. Noticing where I am in the physical world and taking note of the objects around me can allow me to get out of my head. I tend to overthink too much sometimes. So much of my life is lived in my head and not what’s around me. For example, today I spent the entire day on my bed. Never moving and never escaping. Like I said, I overthink. It can be debilitating, like a paralyzation that prevents me[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Eighteen

On day eighteen of the be kind to yourself challenge, it requests you to discover a new breathing technique that best suits you. Truthfully, today’s task should have been at the beginning of the be kind to yourself challenge. Breathing is one of the most effective ways to help you during your most stressful moments. When I’m experiencing an anxiety attack (mostly during social situations), breathing has become one the tools that I use in that instant. Usually, I would take a deep breath in (stomach expanding) for about 4 or 5 seconds, then exhale (stomach depleting) for about 8 or 9 seconds. I would repeat this several times until I’ve become more aware of my social situation. Having the[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Seventeen

Asking for help is always hard, the stigma of asking for help causes greater concern for those that truly need it. On day seventeen of the be kind to yourself challenge enables you to ask for help when you need it. Help comes in many different forms, a community online that shares similar experiences with you is one.  Reading a self-help book is one of the best ways to start asking for help. I find solace when I read, evoking curiosity and disavowing further detriment to my mental state. Reading has a power that I can recognize and use to the best of my ability. That’s why I chose reading as a tool for asking help. It’s the first step when[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Sixteen

On day sixteen of the be kind to yourself challenge, looking towards the sun and facing your fears can reveal what lies beneath your shadows. Your shadows have been hiding in a dark room, unable to see the light. The light is needed to unmask the darkness, allowing for warmth to take over. The cold will slowly fade and all that is left is your scars. The scars will serve as a reminder. My scars unveil my shame and embarrassments. However, that is all in the past, allowing myself to step into the light to be seen is something to not be ashamed of. My presence matters and the difference is that I know that now. My fears kept me[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Fifteen

It’s day fifteen of the be kind to yourself challenge, for today, let’s take a quick break. We’ve been working hard on ourselves for the past two weeks now, it’s time to re-energize. I won’t lie, the past few days have been hard, or I have been hard on myself. Which, in large part, is why I decided to give myself a break for today’s challenge. Taking a break allowed me to let my mind flow freely. Once in a while, you’re going to lift your head up and wonder something similar. You’ll start to question your hard work, question your self-worth based on statistics. Eventually, it will happen. You won’t be the first and you won’t be the last.[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Fourteen

On day fourteen of the be kind to yourself challenge requests you to evaluate one of your own faults and develop the understanding to look at it in a positive way. I recommend journaling to help you if you struggle with this. Today was just as interesting as the day before and now I’m sensing a pattern that I have experienced before. I didn’t have a bad day, but it wasn’t nearly as good as I hoped for it to be. This is when I realized that one of my own faults, relies solely on my past and how it currently affects my present. I tend to compare my past with my present, hence forth more negativity ensues as I failed to[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Thirteen

The be kind to yourself challenge is on its thirteenth day and today’s task will allow you to be more creative with your thinking. Visualization can be an exceptional tool to use to help shape the future you’re looking for. Think of your life as a blank canvas, then start dreaming up a life you can think of. There are no boundaries in visualization, it’s all purely your own desires. This morning, right after I’ve woken from a sleepless night. I tried visualization, however, it was later on during the day that I realized that this was probably not for the best. The lack of sleep and the frustration caused by that lack of sleep created a mindset that was[…]

The Be Kind To Yourself Challenge Day Twelve

Day twelve of the be kind to yourself challenge offers a new set of obstacles that I wasn’t even fully aware of yet. Today’s task was to spend the day with wholeheartedness, which can be an odd concept to grasp. I’ve spent today facing certain realities that I knew I should have been more prepared for. I have a tendency to exit my front door with someone by my side. Interacting with other people in certain social situations causes me great discomfort (more about that another day). I heavily rely on other people to accompany me to ease any social interactions. Today, was the first time I had to go at it alone. Although, I wasn’t alone, to be honest.[…]